既来之，则安之？

两个礼拜过去了，来了纽约两个礼拜；已经开始慢慢的习惯这里的环境语言地铁路线等等，不过还是有种空虚感。。。活了这二十多年，感受这样庞大程度的空虚感还是第一次。。。

自从几天前送走了母亲回家，这感觉就开始无限的自我放大。这感觉，很复杂；有孤独寂寞，无助，迷茫，慌张，伤心等等，我自己也说不出这究竟是一个怎样的感觉。本以为过了几天心情就会慢慢的平复，但今天再度送走了一位朋友后，它又回来了。一想到自己接下来这几年都得独自在这世界级的大城市中生活，我真的不知所措。

自从踏入纽约，这一路走来都还蛮坎坷。尤其是之前被答应的住宿，临时被取消了；所以就花了好几天与母亲阿姨在纽约到处找房子租。好不容易看中了一间很不错的房子，怎知接下来的是步骤复与惊人般贵的费用；我知道，我加重了父母经济上的负担。我很惭愧，很羞耻；怎么在这样的一把年纪还得劳烦父母啊！不孝子！

期间也因为一些事情，和朋友起了争执。这争执到现在都还没解决，半天掉般的悬挂在空中，自己对解决的方法毫无头绪。不知该怎么入手，至少我的简讯那位友人也没回。该怎么办？这可是我不想失去的一位友人。

乐观点，就告诉自己这是人生历练；被观点，就是觉得自己还蛮倒霉的。不过，我写这篇的目的除了抒发想法情绪，也想要自己永远的记得这初到新环境很复杂的感觉。我想这辈子应该再也不会那么庞大版的感受这感觉。

记得，一切都会好好的！加油！

Starting something new..!

Bonjour !

It has been a year since I last posted a post on this blog. Again, time flies...

Unlike last post where I sounded lost and miserable towards my life despite all those travelings, I am currently in a stage where my life is going to take a HUGE turn into path that I have never travelled before. After two years of grad school applications and putting in tons of effort, I have finally been accepted into a doctorate graduate program in US that I had applied to, with scholarship awarded. A pretty good and exciting news, after all this is what I have always wanted and have been working so hard to achieve it! 

But things are not always like how we had expected. Admittedly, I was very exciting when I first read the email on my admission offer, but what followed were simply disasters. The disasters started with explaining to others where is my school/nature and duration of the program, to passport renewal and visa application, to preparing and packing luggages. In fact, I have not even started to do my packing yet and I will be departing in 2 weeks time.

It is a mixed feeling for leaving one's hometown (where one has been living there for literally his whole life until now) to start a new life in a new environment with new culture and people. It might be scary for most people, and I always thought I will not have much problems in adapting and acculturating to new environment. However, I started to become wary as the time for me to leave gets nearer. At least for now, I am worried on pretty much everything e.g. the language, the friends, the professors, and even the foods!

As far as I could remember, I don't recall myself to be so worrying when I first moved to KL to continue my undergraduate education. It might be that the current moving is a bigger and more impactful one? Looking back to the posts that I wrote back then really does give me a sense of speechlessness. Especially my way of communicating in English, I did sounded a lot like my current students, since I was from Chinese education background.  

Mentioning my students, I really did enjoyed my 2 years+ experience working as a pre-university lecturer. I have met students of diverse variety, and some of them are now my friends who will exchange different opinions with me about life and other issues. My soft skills were improved as well, especially public speaking. At least I will not feel as fearful while speaking in front of 60+ people. From where else could one get such fabulous experiences? No where I would say. 

One last thing before ending my post. This is more of a reminder for myself to look back at this few years later and have a good laugh. Remember the one whom you have fell for? How is she doing? How did this episode end? All that I have to say now is: I am sorry that I disturb you.

Wishing myself tons of lucks!

Adulthood? Comme ci, comme ça

Bonjour tout le monde!

Time flies. It had been two years since I last blogged, when I just started my summer job in US.

Lots of things had happened within these 2 years, including both exciting and shitty ones. After my summer job, I had done some backpacking around the States and some European countries which those experiences had profound and significant affect on me even until today. 

Stepped into the 'real world' at the beginning of last year by involving in works related to teenage education, which I am still doing it until now. Got involved in some research works as well, and had applied to some postgraduate programs, which obviously I had failed in securing admission offer from those programs.

Life has been fun and exciting, coupled with some stresses and disappointments. Sometimes, with a sense of helplessness when I see myself to be lagging behind from the usual 'schedule'. Seeing others at my age getting married, having their first children as well as career promotion; had made me felt that I am defective where I am stuck at here going no where. These sense of hopelessness and defectiveness are further reinforced by the people around us, and by the society.

People around me have been defining success as earning lots money, get busy with daily life, have family and kids, and most importantly, own some assets like cars, houses etc. Let's face it, even the topics that are most frequently discussed among the friends are about rental, wages, kids and those of related; this is true regardless of which social circle I am interacting with.

Famous magazine would always listed the 100 most successful people according to their wealth. I have always wondered, couldn't those who have followed their passion, those who have helped others, and those who live a fulfilling and enlightened life considered as successful? Why don't we have some lists on those who have helped the most amount of people or those who have achieved their childhood dreams?

 

Well that's kind of impossible, seeing how materialistic our world is. A short reflection on my adulthood so far, and I am still enjoy it though. C'est la vie.

P.S. secure a postgraduate admission offer by this year!! Good luck.

郁闷

不知不觉，已经在这里过了一个礼拜。


凭良心讲，这在异乡的第一个礼拜并不如我想象中般的那么美好。

有些事情现在不做，一辈子都不会做了（一）

遇见。你

那天我无意间听到某电台播放这首歌。
好久没听到这首歌了。
可能年级大了感性，这是我第一次那么仔细的去听它的曲及了解它的词。
就这样，它让我想起了你，也想起了我们的相遇。

既来之，则安之

开始害怕，开始担心。
怎么会这样？当初那份兴奋，那份期待；到底跑到哪儿啦？
随着那日子的到来，我的害怕担忧愈来愈重；反之那兴奋期待却变得愈来愈渺小。
小的快看不见了啦！
我甚至已分不清楚那导致我失眠的究竟是那些担心害怕，还是那兴奋期待？
还好我已踏上不归路，绝对回不了头；不然我想这时刻就是那时常让大家放弃的时刻吧？

毕业典礼。毕业啦！

-4月22日，晴-

今天，即将为我三年多的大学生涯画上个句号。以前当看到学长姐们的毕业典礼时，我不禁会想像自己未来的毕业典礼；我应该会很激动兴奋吧？其实不然。到了此时此刻，我才发现原来我并没有我想像般的激动兴奋。

兴奋是有的，但又不至于兴奋得想大声喊叫。感动是有的，但又不至于流出眼泪。对我个人而言，这天最大的情绪还是感叹，感叹光阴似箭。

幕后，我来啦...!

"听了那把歌声，看了那演出；突然发觉，我好像应该是时候回到幕后的那个位置."

四月节快乐

状况一：
某一天早上，上课前-
J：Eh V,我已向全家人受了上个月水电费的钱。都已放进这信封里，现在把它交给你。都已经算好了，数目刚刚好。等一下你帮我拿去交，麻烦你了~
V：好的。

此时此刻

现在是2012年3月30日，半夜2点07分。
思绪有点乱，脑子里有很多的想法、感觉；但就是理不清。
就是有那么一点的烦恼，加些对人生的感触，然后再用一小啜的情绪感情来点缀；就是我脑子里此时此刻的内容。
所以，本篇就是我想到什么就写什么的混乱的一篇。

遗忘。初衷？

很多时候，我们都会把那喜欢一个人一件事一首歌一部电影的初衷给忘了；我们常忘了当初他们所带给我们的感觉到底是什么滋味。

甜的？到底有多甜？酸的？那究竟有多酸呢？

或者应该说，很多时候我们都把这些事情当成理所当然的，我们都习惯了他们。

简单的幸福

花了一个礼拜的时间，和一群好友在巴厘岛毫无顾虑的享受着吃喝玩乐的生活。

这可以说是我们的毕业旅行吧？毕竟大伙儿也好久没一起离家出走看世界去。

而我自己也好久没那么放松心情的玩乐；不用想着功课考试，更不用烦恼今天有哪些email得回复！

怀念的人啊，干杯吧！

作曲：阿信
填詞：阿信
編曲：五月天
監製：五月天

會不會　有一天　時間真的能倒退
退回　你的我的　回不去的　悠悠的歲月

也許會　有一天　世界真的有終點
也要和你舉起回憶釀的甜　和你再乾一杯

人生就是选择，选择自己的人生

“我要读心理学！”

经过了一番的深思熟虑，小橙终于做了这个足以让他的人生来个180°大转变的决定。虽说是深思熟虑，但主要原因不外乎是“那科系有够神秘”，“科系的名字很酷！”和“想要了解人类的思想”等，很肤浅又很表面。他的父母不反对这决定，但亲戚长辈们似乎有不同的想法。

奇迹，好像出现了

昨天下午，最终学期的成绩公布了。

看着自己的成绩，我知道，奇迹发生了！

我，可以以第一等荣誉生的身份毕业了！！

打从进入大学的那天开始，我就把“第一等荣誉生”列为我个人的大学最终目标。虽然说成绩好并不保证美好的前途，但我个人觉得成绩好/活跃于课外活动至少能提高那几率。

三年大学生活，我发现好像没几个人是这样想的。时常，他们都觉得我把学业/活动看得太重；倒不如去打工赚多点零用钱买些名牌货。

真的是别人笑我太痴狂，我笑他人看不穿。

回忆。曲

今天早上，我一启动车子的那一霎那，电台就传出了一首很收悉，很让我怀念的歌曲：
                                                             
S.H.E - 恋人未满

不算还好。仔细一算，原来这首歌也10岁了。。可至今，每次唱k我还都会点这首。

再来几首当年的歌：

曙光

前几天，我以督导的身份出席了一个生活营。
刚开始的几小时，我就后悔了；感觉自己像是上了贼船，被骗来当苦力。
但在接下来的几天里，这份悔意慢慢的消失了；取而代之的是开心，满足感。
甚至在离营前，我还跟我的组员说：“一开始，我很后悔；开始与你们相处后，感觉开始变得还满不错；现在混熟了，我的感觉就是‘还好我来了’！”

分离

这两个礼拜，我所说/听得最多的一句话是“有缘再见”。
为什么是“有缘再见”；而不是单纯的“再见”或“拜拜”呢？
理由很简单。
因为这次的别离，保证不了下次的重逢。
大家不会再如预期般的在明天早上八点到课室里等着上课；下次见面，很有可能是会在几年后某某人的结婚典礼上。
十年？五十年？或是下辈子？没人知道。
缘分的奥妙，我领悟过了。

飞凤忆曲

有可能是因为离乡背井的缘故；
相比之下，家人之间的亲情比那些轰轰烈烈的爱情更能触动我心。